Life is all about making choices. Some choices are tough while others are easy. A few of them might seem to be easy even though they are tough ones. I realized something the other day, a realization which you people have already come in terms with perhaps (or perhaps not) but sadly the realization comes a bit too late.
I am talking about a certain choice that we often have to make about relationships that we are committing ourselves to. Before going into that, first thing that we should understand is that there are two very basic kind of individuals that we find around us. Now let us suppose that we have to choose between to such individuals to accompany us in this life and keep this in mind that both of them love you and you also have a soft spot for both of them.
How do we choose in that case? Before making a choice, let me give you my take on each of these guys who come from the opposite end of the spectra and I promise I'll be impartial to both.
The first guy is what can be described as a "dominating badass". No I do not mean that he is into BDMS but just that he is a bit over-possessive. Over possessive in what respect you may ask; I mean he is over possessive in a way that he wants to dominate every aspect of your life. He will dictate what you wear, what you eat and how you behave in public! He will decide what pictures you will upload in Facebook or with whom you will chat in Facebook. He will demand to know your password to keep a "check" on you! You will exist only for him and him alone. He shall not be your man but the epicenter of your universe.He will like you for everything except for what you really are, the he will mold you into a replica of the perfect doll he wants to play with and then he will love! But he will love you! He will love you to such an extend that a mere act of "defiance" against his "authority" is enough to make him contemplate on suicide! He shall force you into submission, curbing your free will. He will continue his rants unless he becomes your oxygen! Such is his passion! But this is no fault of his, it is how he has been programmed by his genes, rather primitive genes I
must say!
Now, let us come to the second oddball. This creature is such that nothing is able to restrain him. Please note that you will never be the center of his universe but merely the closest planet orbiting him and he also does not expect to be the center of your universe either.He himself is what is most important to him! He loves his freedom more than anything and will take the most major offence if anyone tries to curtail it. He expects you to respect his freedom and in return will do exactly the same.In fact he loves you solely for what you are and what you will choose to be. If you change according to the whims of others, his love will begin to wane! He will not give you enough time perhaps because he wants to spend a certain amount of time for himself.He needs his space to breathe and will give exactly the same space! Equivalent exchange!And if you try to reign him in, nothing will piss him more.He is free and will do anything to remain so. You shall always remain secondary to his freedom. But he will love you and do all that is necessary to keep you happy( keeping his happiness intact in the process) and he will perhaps love you more than the first guy( a mere conjecture)
I am sure the choice seems easy now but it is really not so( is it?) once you grasp the full implications of it!
I will help you a bit in this respect.
So what do we do!
Are you ready to sacrifice all your freedom to be happy with someone or should you prefer to drop your ego a bit and accept the fact that you will never be able to exercise complete control over your beloved
Think about it!Think about this before making a choice because such a choice once made can not be erased.
If you have made a choice and feel it is the right one then CONGRATULATIONS!
Otherwise, if you have, like so many, have taken the wrong path, please spare a moment tonight to regret and repent.......That will be all, thanks!
I am talking about a certain choice that we often have to make about relationships that we are committing ourselves to. Before going into that, first thing that we should understand is that there are two very basic kind of individuals that we find around us. Now let us suppose that we have to choose between to such individuals to accompany us in this life and keep this in mind that both of them love you and you also have a soft spot for both of them.
How do we choose in that case? Before making a choice, let me give you my take on each of these guys who come from the opposite end of the spectra and I promise I'll be impartial to both.
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The first guy is what can be described as a "dominating badass". No I do not mean that he is into BDMS but just that he is a bit over-possessive. Over possessive in what respect you may ask; I mean he is over possessive in a way that he wants to dominate every aspect of your life. He will dictate what you wear, what you eat and how you behave in public! He will decide what pictures you will upload in Facebook or with whom you will chat in Facebook. He will demand to know your password to keep a "check" on you! You will exist only for him and him alone. He shall not be your man but the epicenter of your universe.He will like you for everything except for what you really are, the he will mold you into a replica of the perfect doll he wants to play with and then he will love! But he will love you! He will love you to such an extend that a mere act of "defiance" against his "authority" is enough to make him contemplate on suicide! He shall force you into submission, curbing your free will. He will continue his rants unless he becomes your oxygen! Such is his passion! But this is no fault of his, it is how he has been programmed by his genes, rather primitive genes I
must say!
Now, let us come to the second oddball. This creature is such that nothing is able to restrain him. Please note that you will never be the center of his universe but merely the closest planet orbiting him and he also does not expect to be the center of your universe either.He himself is what is most important to him! He loves his freedom more than anything and will take the most major offence if anyone tries to curtail it. He expects you to respect his freedom and in return will do exactly the same.In fact he loves you solely for what you are and what you will choose to be. If you change according to the whims of others, his love will begin to wane! He will not give you enough time perhaps because he wants to spend a certain amount of time for himself.He needs his space to breathe and will give exactly the same space! Equivalent exchange!And if you try to reign him in, nothing will piss him more.He is free and will do anything to remain so. You shall always remain secondary to his freedom. But he will love you and do all that is necessary to keep you happy( keeping his happiness intact in the process) and he will perhaps love you more than the first guy( a mere conjecture)
I am sure the choice seems easy now but it is really not so( is it?) once you grasp the full implications of it!
I will help you a bit in this respect.
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Are you ready to sacrifice all your freedom to be happy with someone or should you prefer to drop your ego a bit and accept the fact that you will never be able to exercise complete control over your beloved
Think about it!Think about this before making a choice because such a choice once made can not be erased.
If you have made a choice and feel it is the right one then CONGRATULATIONS!
Otherwise, if you have, like so many, have taken the wrong path, please spare a moment tonight to regret and repent.......That will be all, thanks!
